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how do people learn to make decisions? what is it that makes some of us followers, and some leaders. and not that either is better, for we need both to maintain the balance, but how are we shaped? I was talking to J about how little babies, they need to be left, on the floor to explore. Not sitting in a chair, doing nothing. Thats how you learn to explore your body, your surrondings, take risks. BUT, so much parental concern restricts this....mommys now, dont leave their baby. on the floor? OH NO!! sanitary wipes galore. this is just an example, of the tiny little things, we do with babies, and how those tiny little things develop into something much bigger. their personality, their character, their attitude. its why the baby sibling is always the one with a bubbling personality and tempermant. They embody the experiences of the ENTIRE family, they are the baby, everyone's baby. Some call believing in this, astrology, sibling position, etc. etc. to be balogne. I think they are just tiny minded. Everysingle thing that happens to us, from the moment we are CONCEIVED, the second we pop out, we are defined by these experiences. And when you have not had any, everyone is magnifide. SO, by the time your near 30, and your having babies, youve had plenty of experiences. You are already mostly shaped, big stuff will cause changes, and you do not notice. the tiny reaction to any movement, they see. theyre babies, what else do they have to do? nothing. they just sit, and watch, and observe, and feel. they grow.

parents need to think about that. today, its so forgotten about what your teaching the children. and its not that parents dont want to teach, its that they are washed with strange ideas of WHAT to teach, how to be. the stepford family, but thats not you. your not the joneses, your YOU! and you cant hide it, and the kid can see it, so all you are doing is confusing the poor darlings. people need to be real. they need to step outside of their image box and take a look around. see who is watching you, see who really cares. notice its only our family. notice is yours loved ones. because them, the ones you try to impress, theyre too busy in their image box to give a dern about YOU!!!

be who you are. those who love you, love you for that. those who dont, their loss.